I was recently listening to Stuart Wilde’s audiobook Life Was Never Meant to Be a Struggle and a bit of wisdom hit me that I feel is essential knowledge to anyone who has ever felt they needed to fire a client.
Wilde says, “We can change our agreements at any time. Change your agreement and change your reality.”
The wisdom from my own experience has taught me that when things are not going well with a client it usually means one of two things: one, that here is a problem that needs to be addressed and resolved, or two, that you’re just not a good match for each other.
However, so often, many of us endure a situation that is not working because we’re afraid to lose the money, afraid to lose the client or afraid there won’t be another client around the corner if you fire this one.
But Wilde reminds us that moving on is as simple as this: Never do anything you don’t want to do.
I think the problem is that so often when faced with this situation, we tend to hear very different advice floating around in our heads including, “Don’t do anything you don’t have to do,” or, worse, “Don’t do anything I wouldn’t do.” These imply that what you want does not matter and, that if you fire a client, either your basic needs will be threatened or your disapproving most insecure voice should be your guide. (Whose voice is that, anyway?)
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do sounds simple, but when you follow that advice, you free yourself and your client from the bounds of something less than either of you wants.
To determine if you need to change the agreement or resolve the situation, here are two more simple thoughts Wilde offers up that I feel are good tools to use as a guide: “Ask yourself why you’re making the choice. Then, change your thoughts or change your agreement.”
Whatever the outcome, you’re certain to transform the situation for the better.
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